Dear Doctor

Dear Medical Professional, You will ask about his medical history, And I will repeat the story I have told 100 times or more, The details fine tuned to the essentials I know you need: He was born full term, He has a 7 year old brother who is fit and well, He is allergic to penicillin.  You will ask me what happened, And I will answer: He is 6 years old. He wasn't breathing for 7 minutes. I gave him mouth to mouth. I will hand over a careful typed piece of A4 paper. It will tell you his hospital number, The things he is allergic to, A list of medications and doses. You will take it and smile. You'll tell me I make your job easier. I will stand calm, And in control.  You see my demeanour, my hospital bags packed and ready, And you say, You've done this before. I'll nod and say many times. But remember this; That 6 year old is my baby. That boy with the oxygen, And the wires, And the tubes, Is my son. I watched him turn bl

Meet The Family


"Mmmm, must be wine-o'clock again!"

Me: I'm Little Mama Murphy- short-arsed, bespectacled, with hair that has varied through the years from long, curly and red to short straight and blonde and anything in-between (including a disastrous pink accident and a dodgy black ‘goth’ look!). Rather fond of a glass of wine or three.

Married to: Mr. M - sturdy, dependable and tall (I come up to just about his shoulders).

Mum to (or Mama as Sean used to call me, hence the name): 
Sean - a cheeky, chatterbox and a wonderful kind and caring big brother to... 
Little Hugh- my beautiful smiley boy with no end of complicated medical difficulties, keeping all the doctors on their toes, turning his dad and me grey with worry and the reason I started this blog.

Mostly this is me, rambling about family life with a ‘medical mystery’, an undiagnosed child, stressing about coming to terms with that (or not as the case may be) and pretty much pouring out all the thoughts and feelings that are bubbling around in my head.  I’m basically using the Internet as free counselling! So far it seems to be working as I haven’t had a nervous breakdown. Yet!

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