tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post1045137230981695830..comments2023-11-04T09:19:11.719+00:00Comments on Little Mama Murphy: Respite - is it wrong to take a break?Little Mama Murphyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02807052833900011141noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-53759825564274292342012-05-10T16:01:23.894+01:002012-05-10T16:01:23.894+01:00Thanks SwanFreddie - I hope you do get your respit...Thanks SwanFreddie - I hope you do get your respite sorted. I realise it is a 'Good Thing' and am quick to advise others to take 'me' time. In reality though, its harder to follow your own advice than it is to give it. <br /><br />Looking for Blue Sky - thank you, I am a lot more positive and I know in time I will get used to the idea of someone else looking after him. Glad you have found something that works for you and Smiley.<br /><br />Thanks Sally - yes I understand that point about DLA too. How can I claim DLA for being his Mum? <br /><br />Anonymous - that is a very good way of looking at it. Perhaps at 12 years old your son would like some time away from you. And likewise, it would be good for H to get used to other people around as well. Someone I know provides respite for a family but explained that she and the child she cares for have so much fun together, that that is more the main purpose of her role now, to play with and have fun with and entertain him. The fact that the mother also gets a break during this time is just an added bonus. I liked thinking about it that way. <br /><br />Swan Archie - thanks for your kind comments. I think a lot of people relate to these worries about respite.<br /><br />Renata - yes, youo seem to be very much of the 'do as I say, don't do as I do camp there' ha ha. Know what you mean, I have previously washed windows despite being so exhausted I just wanted to sleep, just so the carer thought that I was making valuable use of her time! Ridiculous.<br /><br />Nanny-Anne - I think you are definitely right about children picking up on feelings. By recharging my batteries I hope I will be a better Mum to both boys. And that is also true about a break in routine for Hugh too - he does seem to enjoy spending time with the carers that come in.Little Mama Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02807052833900011141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-64771819403000140572012-04-30T20:03:00.190+01:002012-04-30T20:03:00.190+01:00Well done for taking some 'me' time. I thi...Well done for taking some 'me' time. I think that by taking some respite you are also helping H. He will enjoy a different routine and you will benefit from that little break even though I can understand it when you say you don't want to miss any time with him. I believe that children can pick up on our feelings even though they may not understand what they mean, a break can help relieve the tension for both parent and child.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256922384083615002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-24203875182501757692012-04-29T23:13:55.695+01:002012-04-29T23:13:55.695+01:00We don't do respite, but I do get a carer comi...We don't do respite, but I do get a carer coming in for a few hours and never feel like I can sit there and do nothing while the carer is here, no matter how exhausted I am as I'm so sure she's judging me! Ridiculous isn't it. Consequently I take my hat off to you, it is a skill that we have to learn. I still get embarrased when people talk about my 'help' though, as though I'm incapable of coping, but I know that's my issue, not theirs.<br />I truely believe that recharging the batteries means that you'll be in a position to enjoy your time with the family rather than existing in it. And yes I know that writing that makes me a hypocrit, but i mean evey word, lol<br /><br />Thanks for joining in the blog hop, fab entry xRenata @ Just Bring the Chocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320454374679931079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-4329776830894352672012-04-29T09:20:30.761+01:002012-04-29T09:20:30.761+01:00What a love blog and so so true, well done for ign...What a love blog and so so true, well done for ignoring the house work and all the jobs and just listening to your body and taking the first steps to (me time)its very hard to accept someone been paid to spend that few hours with your child while you do nothing. I relate to everything you have said and you wroote it so beautiful too well done xxxxxxxxxswan archie07noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-22195538362793677852012-04-28T15:44:01.901+01:002012-04-28T15:44:01.901+01:00Well done you, you need "Me" time to be ...Well done you, you need "Me" time to be able to keep going, but Im one to talk. We have a 12 year old boy who needs care all the time, but Thank God hes very good at night and when hes gone to bed thats it till morning. I now thats a blessing...I havent used respite yet but some one told me that just cause I may not be ready for it doesnt mean that it wouldnt be good for our boy!! I hadnt looked at it that way but Im getting there and hopefully in the next few weeks Il make that call and get it started!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-86358992715278256932012-04-28T15:18:59.265+01:002012-04-28T15:18:59.265+01:00Glad you got some you time, it's necessary eve...Glad you got some you time, it's necessary even if it sometimes feels wrong. I didn't claim DLA for my son for years, because he's MY son, I shouldn't be paid to look after him?! It makes no sense, but that's what I thought, and it took me a while to see myself clear of that. I really related to this, thank you for sharing xSallyhttp://www.lexilil.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-46010380418921789172012-04-27T21:03:39.055+01:002012-04-27T21:03:39.055+01:00You sound a LOT more positive, and that has to be ...You sound a LOT more positive, and that has to be a good thing, especially after last week. It took me too many years to get my head around the idea of respite, and while it's not perfect, it works well enough so I don't worry about Smiley being there, hopefully you'll get to that point soon too xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3268441232099307652.post-71636769338434499912012-04-27T15:39:44.857+01:002012-04-27T15:39:44.857+01:00I can relate to alot of what you said. We are stil...I can relate to alot of what you said. We are still in the middle of sorting respite. But i feel absolutely terrible that i'm doing it. How can i leave Freddie with someone else while i relax or just do housework. I just don't feel right doing it. But i know i need it. Like you i have piles or washing/ironing/paperwork & definitely look like shit! A few hours just to recharge will do me the world of good.<br />Glad you used the respite to have some you time. The jobs can wait xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com