Having a child with special needs affects the whole family.

Having a child with additional needs changes a family.  I think you become more insular as no one can truly understand how much your life has changed.  We are not the same people, same couple, same family as we were before our special boy, Hugh, was born.  Our priorities have changed.  Our needs have changed.  Hell, even our political views have changed.  It’s not all bad though.  Yes, I am beginning to feel isolated from even my closest friends, but in turn, we have grown stronger as a couple, talk more openly and rely on each other more.



My overriding concern has always been though, the effect having a brother with special needs will have on my eldest son, Sean.  He is nearly three and I worry almost as much about his future as I do about his younger brother’s. Will he get bullied for having a brother that is so ‘different’?  Will he feel neglected because his brother demands so much care and attention?  Will he be embarrassed by a brother that can’t walk or talk?  Will he be jealous…

Just Bog Off!!!

This is Hugh.

Hugh is 6.
Hugh uses a wheelchair.

Hugh likes to go out, just like other 6 year olds.
Hugh sometimes needs to go to the toilet when he is out, just like other 6 year olds. 







This is a disabled toilet. 

Hugh is disabled.









Hugh has a special key that lets him use disabled toilets.












Hugh can't use this disabled toilet though. 

Hugh can't sit or stand by himself. 





Hugh wears nappies. 
Just like Teddy.







Where would you change Hugh?



On the floor?
Just like Teddy? 

Hugh looks at Teddy on the floor.


"Bog off Mum," thinks Hugh. "I'm not lying on a toilet floor!!!"









Where would you change Hugh?



This is a baby changing facility.

Hugh is NOT a baby. 
Hugh is 6!









Teddy can fit on the changing table. 

Hugh can't,  because Hugh is not a baby. 








Hugh looks at Teddy on the changing table.

"Bog off, Mum", thinks Hugh "I can't fit on that baby changing table!"






Where would you change Hugh?



In the boot of the car?
Teddy doesn't mind!

Hugh does.



Hugh thinks, "Bog off, Mum! I'm not lying in the boot of the car!"



Where would you change Hugh?




"How about here, Mum?" Thinks Hugh.

This is a Changing Places Facility.

It has a hoist to help Mum lift Hugh. He's 6 now and 6 year olds can be quite heavy.
It has a height adjustable bench to lie Hugh on. This helps Mum's back.







The changing table is big enough for Teddy.


And it's big enough for Hugh. 





Over 1/4 of a million people would benefit from a Changing Places Facility.  
Sadly there are less than 900 of them in the U.K. 
For many people an ordinary disabled toilet is not enough. 


Sign the petition here to get that changed!