Having a child with special needs affects the whole family.

Having a child with additional needs changes a family.  I think you become more insular as no one can truly understand how much your life has changed.  We are not the same people, same couple, same family as we were before our special boy, Hugh, was born.  Our priorities have changed.  Our needs have changed.  Hell, even our political views have changed.  It’s not all bad though.  Yes, I am beginning to feel isolated from even my closest friends, but in turn, we have grown stronger as a couple, talk more openly and rely on each other more.

My overriding concern has always been though, the effect having a brother with special needs will have on my eldest son, Sean.  He is nearly three and I worry almost as much about his future as I do about his younger brother’s. Will he get bullied for having a brother that is so ‘different’?  Will he feel neglected because his brother demands so much care and attention?  Will he be embarrassed by a brother that can’t walk or talk?  Will he be jealous…

God Gave Me A Special Child

I am strong.

Because my son has taught me to keep fighting
And never give up,
Even when it seems all hope is lost.

I am courageous.

Because my son has taught me to trust my instincts, 
To fight for what I believe in,
And not be too intimidated to make my voice heard.

I am humble.

Because my son has taught me to ask for help when I can't do it alone,
To accept the things I can not change
And to put the past behind me.

I am patient.

Because my son has taught me that some things are worth waiting for.
Like that first giggle,
Or a smile.

I am thankful.

Because my son has taught me to make the most of every opportunity,
To appreciate every day,
As if it were our last.

I am blessed.

Because my son has taught me to see beauty in the world around me,
And that happiness, family and love
Are all that are truly important.

God didn't give me a child with special needs because of the gifts I had.

He gave me a child with special needs to teach me the skills I lacked.