Having a child with special needs affects the whole family.

Having a child with additional needs changes a family.  I think you become more insular as no one can truly understand how much your life has changed.  We are not the same people, same couple, same family as we were before our special boy, Hugh, was born.  Our priorities have changed.  Our needs have changed.  Hell, even our political views have changed.  It’s not all bad though.  Yes, I am beginning to feel isolated from even my closest friends, but in turn, we have grown stronger as a couple, talk more openly and rely on each other more.

My overriding concern has always been though, the effect having a brother with special needs will have on my eldest son, Sean.  He is nearly three and I worry almost as much about his future as I do about his younger brother’s. Will he get bullied for having a brother that is so ‘different’?  Will he feel neglected because his brother demands so much care and attention?  Will he be embarrassed by a brother that can’t walk or talk?  Will he be jealous…

Happy Birthday Precious.


  1. happy happy birthday, little h.
    you have given your mamma so much more than she could ever have hoped for.
    hugs and kisses

  2. Happy Birthday Hugh!! What a lovely little poem. So true.
    Hope you all have a fab day, you definatly deserve it.
    Sending big birthday snuggles & kisses from me & your little friend Freddie xx

  3. Dear Little H

    My Mummy says that we are quite similar in some ways - especially as she says we are both gorgeous but a pair of heart breakers too.

    I hope you have a lovely birthday and get lots and lots of cuddles. They are much better than presents.

    My Mummy reads your Mummy's posts to my Dad and they boy say that they can hear how much she loves you (and Cheeky too of course) in every word.

    I hope we can meet one day & hang out.

    With love and cuddles, your friend Samuel. x

  4. Aw, and written more too! Happy Birthday, I hope it's an uneventful day for all the right reasons x

  5. Beautiful :) Happy Birthday little H x

  6. A belated Happy Birthday but sending lots of love all the same. xx

  7. Thank you all for the birthday messages. He had a lovely day, enjoyed all the cuddles and snuggles he got from family and friends and was well and truly spoilt rotten. xxx


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